“I suppose I will be living with this pain for many, many years”, I remarked after a major setback. My coach’s response was short and to the point: “Only if you choose to.” When his words were met by a frown, he said to me: “you either live life by design or by default.” Indeed, he was right, I could choose to keep living in the setback, or to move on, to be happy again or not.

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